Let me first admit, I didn’t know what to anticipate with this book. I wasn’t sure if I could relate to this book which means I wasn’t sure if I was really willing to read the book in its entirety. However, I am so thankful that I decided to grab this book from a wonderful, young woman who is also the author of the book, “Child of an Addict”.
I am a fan of being a vendor at certain events. I did it for a short time when I published my first books but then I decided to take a small break. Then I got back into it when I joined Damsel in Defense which is a great part-time MLM business that I truly enjoy. I met Timia Carruthers at one event and noticed her book. I didn’t have the funds to obtain her book initially so I promised myself if I were to see her again, I would purchase her book because it did intrigue. It wasn’t the normal ‘title’ that I’d go for but yet it still intrigued me. So, just as God would orchestrate it, I seen this young woman once again at another event! I grabbed her book and started reading it that night once I got home.
My first honest reaction to this book is WOW!
I thoroughly enjoyed and appreciated the style of narrative chosen to write this book. Although on the back it mentions how the book is loosely based on her life story, she doesn’t use her name as the lead character. This allows the reader to take a short walk in her shoes. I was actually able to relate to this story because it was raw and authentic. I truly appreciate these types of stories because in life it’s so easy to wear masks. It’s so easy to pop pills to help overcome the anxiety and think that’s all life will ever be. But this book introduces a wonderful and powerful spiritual journey of the Recovery Room.
I think I loved this part of the story the most because we all need a recovery room. Even when we experience the smallest of the unexpected, we still need a moment of recovery. I know from personal experience of having outpatient surgery, I was still made to sit in the recovery room. Then even with my major surgeries, I had to go into the recovery room. In life, we go through seasons of being cut, abused, bullied, and more. Unfortunately, these seasons of life can last for years unlike a surgery that just last for hours. So there should be a designated time for recovery. A time to really ‘clean the open wounds’ of our heart and soul. A time to properly bandage and apply adequate treatment so healing can finally begin.
I recommend this book for those who loves a story of triumph over major life struggles. I also recommend this book for those who can relate to being a child of an addict. Be sure to visit Timia Carruthers’ website recoveryroomindy.com. She is a certified Life Coach, published author, and motivational speaker. Powerful woman who is helping people heal spiritually and mentally.
I already know! What I am about to explain goes against every marketing and/or business plan template out there. However, I just need to be honest because this is how I discovered another level of freedom.
Any fellow entrepreneur who has had the pleasure of sitting down and writing out some type of business and/or marketing plan has heard the process of reviewing other competitors. Basically, to review similar companies or organization in order to see what you can glean from their current situation. To see what they are doing that will help you identify what is going to help you stand out from them.
Can I be honest? This can be intimidating for a new business owner. Someone who has a passion and dream to start their own business. To help people solve their problems and overcome obstacles. They compare themselves to businesses that have been in existence for 5, 10, or 15 years. They’re succeeding and it’s hard to imagine exactly what they went through in order to understand how they achieved success.
Now, for most people, they know success doesn’t happen overnight. They recognize the need to work hard, make the right investments, take risks, etc. However, even the most passionate entrepreneur can get overwhelmed because not only is there this cloud of comparison and analysis but there’s also this cloud of competing with these established businesses.
We live in a society that is influenced by what others say. We depend on the reviews from others in order to trust a product and/or service. It’s basically like depending on people’s approval. And believe me, I too have been influenced by reviews in order to make my final decision on purchasing a specific product and/or service. Depending on their approval. HOWEVER, I have also made a lot of decisions without the influence, or approval, of what others have said. The reason is because I trusted what God said!
I have discovered that when I pray for guidance and God leads me to discover the solution, it’s normally not based on a ton of reviews from other people. I believe this is because God is testing if I trust His guidance and approval. He has never stirred me wrong. I will admit I haven’t always passed the test but these last few months, I now understand the lessons I was supposed to learn from those tests I didn’t pass.
Another lesson I learned is to not compare and/or compete with other established businesses. Why? Because I am who I am. God did not make another Latonia Marie Stovall Price with the exact same DNA. If I help someone solve their problem, it’s going to be a unique experience because I am who I am. Sure, the process may be similar and/or familiar, e.g. setting goals, self-reflection exercises, the inspirational scriptures to meditate on, etc. But it will be coming from a different spirit – a different vessel – a different anointing – a different set of moral values and integrity – and more. I can’t be like no other life coach, speaker, author, etc.
Why waste my time comparing and/or competing when there are still millions and millions of people who are seeking the type of help I offer? All God is asking me or requiring me to do is show up! When Jesus Christ gave the commission to go out into all the world to preach the gospel, he basically was telling them ‘show up’. It didn’t matter how many would be saved that first trip, second trip…10,000th trip! All that mattered was that they went and God would handle the rest. That’s why Jesus said that if he be lifted up, he’ll draw all men unto him. (John 12:32) Our purpose is to allow people to see God’s glory via our unique abilities (and not a masked or faux form of perfection).
We just have to continue to ‘show up’ by lifting up the one who makes it possible for us to do what we do. I couldn’t possess the spiritual gifts that I possess without God! I couldn’t have wrote the books I have written without God’s help! I couldn’t have helped the people that I’ve helped thus far without God’s guidance and favor! I don’t need to compare, compete, or anything in order to lift up God and His amazing power. All I have to do is just continue to ‘show up’ and ensure that people understand it’s not about me but it’s about God. I’m only another, unique vessel fulfilling His purpose. I’ve erased the comparison and/or competition section from my business and/or marketing plan because I’m trusting God’s glory will do what it does best: Draw them in!
In the last few weeks, I have been doing a lot (and I do mean A LOT) of self-reflection. I don’t believe I’ve done this much self-reflection before in my entire life. I’ve been having to do it for class and honestly, I’m so glad that I’m experiencing this level of self-reflection. I’ve understood the need for examining self but like most people, we go just so far where we stay comfortable. We don’t like doing self-reflection to the point of being uncomfortable. However, I’m learning that’s what we need and we need to do it more than what we realize.
One lesson that came to the surface was about judgement. We know the Bible talks a lot about judgement. From God’s own divine position to our earthly position. There are degrees of judgement that are lawful and respected. In fact, if we didn’t have those forms of judgement, we would be living in a world of uncontrolled chaos (much worse than the chaos we have). However, it’s easy to fall into a state of making judgements about ourselves and others that are negative because it’s so natural to judge.
The negative judgement comes in when the motives aren’t positive. Also, when the ideal standard is not realistic. We’ll judge someone based on outward appearances versus getting to know them personally. We’ll make judgements when we feel our idea of perfection or righteousness isn’t being achieved by others. Unfortunately, we live in a society that has set a lot of man-made standards on appearance and more. The influence behind some of these man-made standards are not Godly or Christ-like. We’ll even end up negatively judging others because they didn’t do or follow what we thought was the right thing to do. Sure, God wants us to offer wise counsel to each other but just because they don’t follow what we said doesn’t give the right for them to be negatively judged. If anything, pray for that individual that God reaffirms and directs them according to what is right for their life!
In these past few weeks, I had to recognize there were negative influences (or demonic strongholds) that causes me to feel inadequate. I struggled with low self-esteem for years. I had to realize that at a very young age, I was influenced by the wrong standards. What I thought would help improve my self-esteem were only temporary. I had to dig deep and find the roots of why I had (and sometimes still do have moments) low self-esteem. I was different and still am. I will never meet man-made standards and the only standards I now want to meet is God’s. I had to learn to love my uniqueness. I had to learn to love and not judge others who were judging me. As much as we all have to learn to love self, we must also learn to love others. I can’t judge others who judge me. Two wrongs don’t make a right. Honestly, I’m having to practice this spiritual discipline of judgement every day. Towards myself and others. I’m broken but I’m whole because of God’s glory! Because of His grace! Because of His mercy! Because Jesus Christ, my Savior, redeems me!
Just like God’s done all of this for me, He’s done the same for everybody else. Nobody is perfect and we all need God’s grace and mercy. It’s time to stop the negative judgements and start living in true freedom of God’s truth!
I blogged about the No More Silly Women conference on Monday. Awesome experience! I truly received my RESET for my RENEWAL in 2018! One of the speakers at the conference was an anointed and fabulous woman of God who has the nickname of Real Talk Kim. Her official name is Kimberly Jones-Pothier and she is a powerful pastor and speaker who is not ashamed to tell her testimony in order to help others overcome obstacles!
Let me first make this confession: we don’t have cable in my house. I’m in Indianapolis, IN and we have regular, digital antenna television. I do watch TV but I don’t watch it every day. So, when I first heard about the line-up of speakers for the upcoming conference, I was excited because I had never heard of any of these women. EVER! So, ‘Real Talk Kim’ was a star on Oxygen’s docuseries, Preachers of Atlanta. Besides that, she’s known around the world for her awesomeness and just genuine love for people. But I had never heard of her until this conference. LOL! I was already in anticipation for what each speaker had to deliver for the No More Silly Women conference. But it was something about her that had me on the edge of my seat!
Of course, I purchased both of her books. And as I am writing this blog post, I just finished reading and leaving a review on Amazon about her book entitled “Beautifully Broken”. (I plan to start reading the other one tomorrow. LOL!) Amazing book! So empowering! It also aligns with so much that I’ve been reading and learning while in school these last few months on being an apprentice of Jesus Christ. I highly recommend this book for those who are seeking to include an empowering and inspiring book to have in their personal library! I made highlights in mine and I know I will go back to it whenever I need to!
One of the main things a loved about her book was how it encouraged still being broken but yet being whole. These last few months of being a part of seminary, I’ve been amazed at how the first set of classes explains how we will never be perfect. So many of us have been lied to about being perfect and that’s the only way of being accepted. The only way God will approve you and/or use you. THAT IS SUCH A LIE! I know when I first started trying be an entrepreneur, an author, a speaker, etc. I thought the same thing. I thought I had to do things EXACTLY like others before me who are now very successful. I thought I had to be completely healed from the emotional trauma of my daughter’s stillbirth in 2013. I thought I had to be completely perfect to be a wife of a licensed minister and more. But in the last few months, I have been reminded I don’t have be perfect. I do have to be spiritual mature to recognize I need God to help me and He’s perfect! So when people see me, they see His perfect glory – not me! I’m definitely not as broken and discouraged as I was 4 years ago. Now I’ve been walking in my healing and deliverance every day. And while I’m walking, I just want to help others along the way!
I’ve been allowing certain matters to block my path but I can’t do that any longer! I can only be me and that alone takes 24/7! I’d been taking a much heavier load if I tried to be something or someone that I’m not. And one of the many lessons Jesus Christ taught is about taking on His easy yoke and lighter burden. (Matthew 11:30) I declared 2018 as the year of RENEWAL! I’m just going to follow God’s direction; always praying, walking along this path with Jesus Christ as my teacher, and allow the Holy Spirit to flow in my life! I declare the best days are starting NOW!
I want to share a recap of this weekend. Honestly, the words I am about to type won't do it justice for what I experienced. When you pour out so much and you do take the time to get 'poured into' with your own personal devotions, attending worship services, etc. but you know there's something you're still needing! I strive to practice all that I encourage others to do. However, there are seasons that your spirit yearns for something in particular. It's kind of like your natural appetite. You know eat food everyday. Most foods will satisfy that hunger. But one day, you really yearn for a really nice, specific meal and only that specific meal will satisfy your hunger. That's where I was before this weekend.
I attended the annual No More Silly Women Conference hosted by the incredible Lady Nicole Green. This was my third year attending however this conference has been happening for several years. The theme this year was RESET and I truly needed to reset! Every speaker poured out a mighty word from God that would just filled me up and filled me up -- I AM FULL! LOL! Honestly, all the speakers were dynamic! The praise and worship was authentic! The prayers and intercessions were ground-breaking! I encourage any and every woman to go in 2018 and beyond!
The last couple of years I attended the conference were more none personal reasons, e.g. first year I had a vendor table, the second year I just went but couldn't stay the whole time because I wasn't feeling well, etc. But I stayed the whole time this year and I didn't have to do a vendor table because I knew I needed to be RESET! This RESET was to prepare me for my RENEWAL in 2018!
It was put on my heart a couple of months ago that 2018 will be the year of the renewal. I've been seeking God and this weekend, I was empowered (and reminded) to go after some ideas. I was reminded to do things according to the way God instructs me and not the way man instructed me. It's not to say that the training and information that I have received were not great. However, God's instruction trumps man's instruction. In fact, some of the man's instruction aligns with God's instruction as far as some of the actions to take. However, there's still a unique instruction that God gave me and He will continue to give me. I just need to listen and obey.
My renewal requires a new mindset. My renewal requires a new level of love, devotion, humility, obedience, and sacrifice. My renewal is an understanding that I am an apprentice of Jesus Christ. Everything I touch, everywhere I go, I want people to see God's glory and honestly that's been the primary goal for my life.
I encourage everyone before the 2017 year is finished to RESET! I believe this is something you should do at the end of each year. However, this year, I empower you to do it intentionally! I am praying that 2018 be a year of renewal for millions and millions of people! I am so thankful for great people who are willing to pour into others! Remember -- RESET for RENEWAL! God bless you! Love you all! :-)
Let me make this disclaimer first: I am not a medical professional. I haven’t received official conclusions from my doctors yet. This story is 100% based on my personal experience since November 2016. That is the time I was told I had fibromyalgia. However, one year later, I do not believe I have fibromyalgia and this is my story on why.
I am a research junky. But in a good and intellectual way. I don’t believe everything I read on the Internet. Depending on the subject, I will read articles and blog posts from reliable sources. Some sources have been personal testimonies as well which for me are still reliable based on a particular subject matter. In the case of medical experiences, I do read many blog posts and articles about people who share their stories.
In November 2016, I was told I had fibromyalgia. I went to a rheumatologist and had some blood work done. The doctor had a rule for initial evaluations. She didn't believe in prescribing pain medications as the first line of treatment. She told me to shift my diet. No wheat. No sugar. No sugar substitutes. She also gave me papers on how to do detox baths and breathing techniques for relaxation. Once the blood work came back, it was discovered I had certain food allergies to cow milk, eggs, soy, and wheat. Although I shifted my diet, I still experienced pains, fatigue and other symptoms regularly.
My husband really was concerned because he really was afraid to touch me because I was so sensitive on certain parts of my body. So, I started a deeper research journey because the rheumatologist closed her office. I only was able to visit her twice but both visits was very informative. Her decision to not put me on medications helped encourage me to continue my research and strive to understand if what I had was really fibromyalgia. This led me to join special Facebook (FB) support groups and follow certain blogs. In August (2017) there was a special post about an article within a FB group that grabbed my attention. I read this article and it was very interesting. This woman was told she had fibromyalgia for years. After medications and diet changes, she still was just not feeling the way she needed to. She also stated that she realizes some people really do have fibromyalgia. However, for her, she just wanted another doctor’s opinion. She got one and it was discovered she had been exposed to black mold for a duration of time. She basically had built up toxins in her body and she needed to have some major detox. Even at the time of the article, she still was undergoing tests and detox treatments. However, she had major health improvements which prompted her to write the article. Ironically, when I read this article, something was happening for me.
I had started using my air purifier in our bedroom. I hadn’t used it since moving into our home which was over 2 years ago now. I honestly started using the air purifier because I was having some allergy issues. But when my allergies wasn’t improving like I thought they would, I went to see my primary care physician (PCP) and she told to change up my allergy medicines that included a nasal spray. But she also prescribed me antibiotics, just in case. Not a lot; just for a few days. Throughout the next couple of weeks, I noticed a rapid decrease in my body pains. I honestly thought I was going crazy because I wasn’t use to having so much energy without the pain. At first, I thought maybe antibiotics were helping. I asked my PCP and she stated antibiotics can’t help with fibromyalgia. Then I remembered the air purifier and the article about the mold exposure. I soon did an in-home mold test kit for our master bathroom. I know areas of constant moisture and all can cause mold to be produced. It wasn’t like we live in dirty surroundings! After reading and researching, even the cleanest areas still can use another cleaning. I ran the test and there was growth within 48 hours! I immediately began to do some major cleaning and disinfecting; getting the recommended mold remover based on that in-home test kit. My thoughts are: I was exposed to mold and other airborne allergens that was finally taking it's toll on my body.
As I stated in the beginning, I cannot confirm all that I’ve experienced yet because I still have an appointment coming up with my doctor. However, I can honestly say, since changing my environment and diet, there has been a MAJOR change in my body! I know toxins are all around and it’s hard to be completely free of toxins. However, I wanted to do this post for a few reasons. I wanted to share my experience to help others. I recommend to anyone who may be experiencing unusual sickness to check their environments, e.g. home, work, etc. Choose to eat healthier. I mentioned how toxins are all around us. The build-up of toxins in our body can increase more rapidly if we keep eating foods that are toxic to our health. I’m not perfect by no means! I’m not a vegan, vegetarian, or nothing like that. I am more mindful about what I eat every day. I also prayed! I asked God if there’s something else, help me. I didn’t know what I would find or how God would lead me. But I do believe He did! Even my husband has noticed a huge change in my energy level and the way he can touch me now and I don’t scream ‘ouch’ anymore.
The biggest testimony I can say with this: Seek God first! I truly prayed even before going to a doctor back in 2016. I never stopped praying even after that. I know people have conditions and they are legitimate. However, I still do believe that God can heal all manner of diseases – it will take us to listen to His direction how to get our healing!
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