I’m saved, sanctified, filled with the Holy Ghost, fire baptized – blah, blah, blah. LOL! Yes, I did just end that with blah, blah, blah. It’s because I honestly have seen this phrase used more as a mask to hide spiritual identity crisis. Just because I’m a Christian doesn’t mean I have to ignore my body and mental health. God IS AN AWESOME GOD! Anyone that knows me knows I give God glory and praise; not ashamed to praise Him where ever I go. However, I also have learned as I’m maturing in this spiritual formation journey that there are some layers that I need help with. To overcome issues that were known and unknown. That’s when I made the decision to get a licensed mental health counselor.
When I started seminary in 2017, during the initial courses, there was book about living a kingdom life. Within that book, it didn’t sugar anything about this life on earth. IT’S HARD! We encounter so much on this side and to believe that we must endure all this alone is not true. Even now, I get emotional thinking about all those who do have to endure hardships and obstacles alone. Not by choice but still they are alone for a specific season. As a vessel for God, it’s not easy. One of the things I found so profound was that the author strongly recommended to seek counseling when necessary. This was a well-established pastor! Someone who counseled others but even he said there’s a need for a professional counselor when necessary.
I decided to start counseling about mid-year of 2018. Why? Honestly, to ensure I don’t go crazy. No offense to those who have gone crazy and had a major mental meltdown. But it finally took one occasion to say I needed help. And it was a Sunday morning! Yep, right in the women’s bathroom at church! I had a meltdown. Not a major one but I had a meltdown. Only a few people know but when I drove to church, I tried so hard that day to get it together. Ya’ll know, ladies! The cute dress, the nice heels, hair exactly right, the fake smile – by the time I left my house, parked my car on the street next to the church, and walked into that bathroom, I WAS DONE! And the whole time I’m driving to church, I felt myself getting overwhelmed, but I couldn’t control it. Every emotion overtook me, and I just busted out in tears in my mother-in-law arms (who just so happen to be right at the bathroom sink when I walked in). I finally got it together after she prayed for me and another woman of God helped me. But I knew then, I had to decide.
Few people know I see a therapist. My husband knows. My best friend knows. A few others. Now, it’s not because I’m ashamed! First off, my therapist is a Christian therapist. And by the time I started seeing her, God had started speaking to my heart about all that I need to do. But God still said, See the therapist because she’ll help keep me accountable. And she’s done just that!
I’m a Godly wife. I’m a Christian author. I’ve accepted my calling as an evangelist. I’m doing better at seeking guidance and support from my pastor, husband, and close friends. Then I also have a therapist! I’m determined to help others transform their lives with God. But I must strive to maintain a healthy balance in order to be the most effective. I want the power of the anointing to flow freely in what I do for ministry and not just a bottle full of emotions that tickles ears. Just like I want yokes destroyed in my life, I want yokes destroyed in EVERYONE’S life! I challenge all Christians to ensure they have a dedicated support group to help them mentally, physically, and spiritually! Do NOT think it’s a sign of weakness or doubt in God’s ability. God works through His chosen for a reason!
Love all of you! God bless!
Stress in ministry is real! This includes mental health issues. I want to hear from my fellow Christian brothers and sisters! How are you ensuring you maintain good mental health so you can stay effective in the Kingdom of God? Comment below! :-)
We hear it all the time. To stop being so negative. Stop being so judgmental about self. But then we hear about humbling ourselves and recognizing we are not perfect. We really are not all that great. For someone who is trying to figure this thing out, it may seem quite confusing. So, which should it be? Should we think we suck, or should we think we are awesome? Well, I believe there is a healthy balance that should lean more towards the awesome with constant reminders of there’s always room for improvement.
I recently told my husband he is too hard on himself. His response was that is what keeps him humble. I agree if you know how to keep a healthy balance. My husband sometimes does not have that healthy balance. But sometimes, neither do I. I have done faith coaching and it often involves helping people get over negative self-thoughts. The phrase about us being our worst critic is true. But somewhere along this path of self-criticism, we ended up too far on the negative end. Some have surpassed the negative end and that is dangerous. The same can be said if someone surpasses the positive end. I believe humility does begin with recognizing we need help. In the Bible, it talks about we should humble ourselves. This means recognizing we cannot deal with life on our own. We need God, family, friends, spouse, a pet(s), and more. As we advance in life, to maintain humility, we should remember where we started and how far we still must go. Even for someone who has a successful business, a great house, a nice car, stable savings and investments – they still need to remain humble! They still need help and there’s still room for improvement in their life.
But recognizing we need help is not negative. I am not sure who that was but whoever that was that thought it was shameful or embarrassing to admit you need help, I say shame on you! This shame has now caused people to hide their issues and now they feel isolated and alone. True humility does not dwell in self-negativity. True humility means your feelings will get hurt more than what you like them to. True humility means learning how to embrace all the good and the bad but use the good to triumph over the bad. This includes loving yourself enough to seek help to become better. To become a better person and to do better. Humility is not shame or guilt. Will you feel that way sometimes while humbling yourself? Yes. But do not dwell there. The good news is God helps us to feel shame or guilt no longer. And if we have real family and friends, they too will help us no longer feel shame or guilt.
Humility is a powerful attribute to have. We all possess some amazing gifts and are wonderful in those gifts. We all can make a positive difference in this world. No one is better than the other while, yet we all are awesome! LOL! That is something that amazes me about God and how He created us. He assigned each us just enough to balance each other out. There are those people who are often considered giants in their field but honestly, there will always be room for more giants! I challenge all us to stop the self-negativity and really learn true humility.
Don't be so hard on yourself! There is always room to improve but recognize you are awesome and amazing! Let hear from you! Comment below on how you learned to humble yourself and how you continue to ensure you exercise true humility!
Life consists of eternal transformation. If we live on this earth, we are constantly transforming. Perfection will never be obtained. However, we can achieve good health in our minds, bodies, and spirits. The way we can achieve those things is by the power of choice. God is truly present and all-powerful. However, God does not force His way. He provides influences that are natural; some may say overwhelming. At the end of the day, God still needs a ‘yes’ and that is a choice. With this great power, comes great responsibility (yes, I know that is a famous phrase that is overly used…sorry…LOL). Here are 3 ways to positively embrace the power of choice to help achieve good health:
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I already know! What I am about to explain goes against every marketing and/or business plan template out there. However, I just need to be honest because this is how I discovered another level of freedom.
Any fellow entrepreneur who has had the pleasure of sitting down and writing out some type of business and/or marketing plan has heard the process of reviewing other competitors. Basically, to review similar companies or organization in order to see what you can glean from their current situation. To see what they are doing that will help you identify what is going to help you stand out from them.
Can I be honest? This can be intimidating for a new business owner. Someone who has a passion and dream to start their own business. To help people solve their problems and overcome obstacles. They compare themselves to businesses that have been in existence for 5, 10, or 15 years. They’re succeeding and it’s hard to imagine exactly what they went through in order to understand how they achieved success.
Now, for most people, they know success doesn’t happen overnight. They recognize the need to work hard, make the right investments, take risks, etc. However, even the most passionate entrepreneur can get overwhelmed because not only is there this cloud of comparison and analysis but there’s also this cloud of competing with these established businesses.
We live in a society that is influenced by what others say. We depend on the reviews from others in order to trust a product and/or service. It’s basically like depending on people’s approval. And believe me, I too have been influenced by reviews in order to make my final decision on purchasing a specific product and/or service. Depending on their approval. HOWEVER, I have also made a lot of decisions without the influence, or approval, of what others have said. The reason is because I trusted what God said!
I have discovered that when I pray for guidance and God leads me to discover the solution, it’s normally not based on a ton of reviews from other people. I believe this is because God is testing if I trust His guidance and approval. He has never stirred me wrong. I will admit I haven’t always passed the test but these last few months, I now understand the lessons I was supposed to learn from those tests I didn’t pass.
Another lesson I learned is to not compare and/or compete with other established businesses. Why? Because I am who I am. God did not make another Latonia Marie Stovall Price with the exact same DNA. If I help someone solve their problem, it’s going to be a unique experience because I am who I am. Sure, the process may be similar and/or familiar, e.g. setting goals, self-reflection exercises, the inspirational scriptures to meditate on, etc. But it will be coming from a different spirit – a different vessel – a different anointing – a different set of moral values and integrity – and more. I can’t be like no other life coach, speaker, author, etc.
Why waste my time comparing and/or competing when there are still millions and millions of people who are seeking the type of help I offer? All God is asking me or requiring me to do is show up! When Jesus Christ gave the commission to go out into all the world to preach the gospel, he basically was telling them ‘show up’. It didn’t matter how many would be saved that first trip, second trip…10,000th trip! All that mattered was that they went and God would handle the rest. That’s why Jesus said that if he be lifted up, he’ll draw all men unto him. (John 12:32) Our purpose is to allow people to see God’s glory via our unique abilities (and not a masked or faux form of perfection).
We just have to continue to ‘show up’ by lifting up the one who makes it possible for us to do what we do. I couldn’t possess the spiritual gifts that I possess without God! I couldn’t have wrote the books I have written without God’s help! I couldn’t have helped the people that I’ve helped thus far without God’s guidance and favor! I don’t need to compare, compete, or anything in order to lift up God and His amazing power. All I have to do is just continue to ‘show up’ and ensure that people understand it’s not about me but it’s about God. I’m only another, unique vessel fulfilling His purpose. I’ve erased the comparison and/or competition section from my business and/or marketing plan because I’m trusting God’s glory will do what it does best: Draw them in!
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In the last few weeks, I have been doing a lot (and I do mean A LOT) of self-reflection. I don’t believe I’ve done this much self-reflection before in my entire life. I’ve been having to do it for class and honestly, I’m so glad that I’m experiencing this level of self-reflection. I’ve understood the need for examining self but like most people, we go just so far where we stay comfortable. We don’t like doing self-reflection to the point of being uncomfortable. However, I’m learning that’s what we need and we need to do it more than what we realize.
One lesson that came to the surface was about judgement. We know the Bible talks a lot about judgement. From God’s own divine position to our earthly position. There are degrees of judgement that are lawful and respected. In fact, if we didn’t have those forms of judgement, we would be living in a world of uncontrolled chaos (much worse than the chaos we have). However, it’s easy to fall into a state of making judgements about ourselves and others that are negative because it’s so natural to judge.
The negative judgement comes in when the motives aren’t positive. Also, when the ideal standard is not realistic. We’ll judge someone based on outward appearances versus getting to know them personally. We’ll make judgements when we feel our idea of perfection or righteousness isn’t being achieved by others. Unfortunately, we live in a society that has set a lot of man-made standards on appearance and more. The influence behind some of these man-made standards are not Godly or Christ-like. We’ll even end up negatively judging others because they didn’t do or follow what we thought was the right thing to do. Sure, God wants us to offer wise counsel to each other but just because they don’t follow what we said doesn’t give the right for them to be negatively judged. If anything, pray for that individual that God reaffirms and directs them according to what is right for their life!
In these past few weeks, I had to recognize there were negative influences (or demonic strongholds) that causes me to feel inadequate. I struggled with low self-esteem for years. I had to realize that at a very young age, I was influenced by the wrong standards. What I thought would help improve my self-esteem were only temporary. I had to dig deep and find the roots of why I had (and sometimes still do have moments) low self-esteem. I was different and still am. I will never meet man-made standards and the only standards I now want to meet is God’s. I had to learn to love my uniqueness. I had to learn to love and not judge others who were judging me. As much as we all have to learn to love self, we must also learn to love others. I can’t judge others who judge me. Two wrongs don’t make a right. Honestly, I’m having to practice this spiritual discipline of judgement every day. Towards myself and others. I’m broken but I’m whole because of God’s glory! Because of His grace! Because of His mercy! Because Jesus Christ, my Savior, redeems me!
Just like God’s done all of this for me, He’s done the same for everybody else. Nobody is perfect and we all need God’s grace and mercy. It’s time to stop the negative judgements and start living in true freedom of God’s truth!
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