We hear it all the time. To stop being so negative. Stop being so judgmental about self. But then we hear about humbling ourselves and recognizing we are not perfect. We really are not all that great. For someone who is trying to figure this thing out, it may seem quite confusing. So, which should it be? Should we think we suck, or should we think we are awesome? Well, I believe there is a healthy balance that should lean more towards the awesome with constant reminders of there’s always room for improvement.
I recently told my husband he is too hard on himself. His response was that is what keeps him humble. I agree if you know how to keep a healthy balance. My husband sometimes does not have that healthy balance. But sometimes, neither do I. I have done faith coaching and it often involves helping people get over negative self-thoughts. The phrase about us being our worst critic is true. But somewhere along this path of self-criticism, we ended up too far on the negative end. Some have surpassed the negative end and that is dangerous. The same can be said if someone surpasses the positive end. I believe humility does begin with recognizing we need help. In the Bible, it talks about we should humble ourselves. This means recognizing we cannot deal with life on our own. We need God, family, friends, spouse, a pet(s), and more. As we advance in life, to maintain humility, we should remember where we started and how far we still must go. Even for someone who has a successful business, a great house, a nice car, stable savings and investments – they still need to remain humble! They still need help and there’s still room for improvement in their life.
But recognizing we need help is not negative. I am not sure who that was but whoever that was that thought it was shameful or embarrassing to admit you need help, I say shame on you! This shame has now caused people to hide their issues and now they feel isolated and alone. True humility does not dwell in self-negativity. True humility means your feelings will get hurt more than what you like them to. True humility means learning how to embrace all the good and the bad but use the good to triumph over the bad. This includes loving yourself enough to seek help to become better. To become a better person and to do better. Humility is not shame or guilt. Will you feel that way sometimes while humbling yourself? Yes. But do not dwell there. The good news is God helps us to feel shame or guilt no longer. And if we have real family and friends, they too will help us no longer feel shame or guilt.
Humility is a powerful attribute to have. We all possess some amazing gifts and are wonderful in those gifts. We all can make a positive difference in this world. No one is better than the other while, yet we all are awesome! LOL! That is something that amazes me about God and how He created us. He assigned each us just enough to balance each other out. There are those people who are often considered giants in their field but honestly, there will always be room for more giants! I challenge all us to stop the self-negativity and really learn true humility.
Don't be so hard on yourself! There is always room to improve but recognize you are awesome and amazing! Let hear from you! Comment below on how you learned to humble yourself and how you continue to ensure you exercise true humility!
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