When we found our infertility specialist to conceive Charlotte, it was truly God! We honestly did not know what to expect but once we had the first visit, we were convinced God was with us!
The first tip when finding a specialist is do the research online and/or with your family doctor. The second tip is to be honest about who you are.
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As I sat in my Christian therapist's office, I was once again discussing the struggles of trying to conceive. By the time I came to talking about my husband and all that I felt about him, I found myself saying, "I'm tired."
Suddenly, I paused and had these "TV sitcom" flashbacks -- moments where I was frustrated while talking to my husband, but all my husband could say was, "I'm tired." As I sat there in that office, I finally understood what my husband was saying. And I felt so overwhelmed with emotions, I just started crying right there in her office. All this time when I thought my husband and I was not communicating or on the same page, the truth was we were both TIRED! (click 'Read More' to continue...)
I am not sure why it is uncomfortable?
It was comfortable for me as I carried my daughter for 38.5 weeks. Feeling every kick and punch. Watching her smile on the 3D ultrasound. Despite she only lived for 38.5 weeks, she still lived a fulfilling life. (Click 'Read More' to continue...)
Those are the words God spoke to me in 2019. After 3 years of not praying about trying to conceive because my husband and I were tired from the emotional roller coaster.
Our angel, Charlotte Evelina, was stillborn August 23, 2013. Afterwards, we did try again. But the more we tried, the worst our emotions became due to all the infertility issues, doctors’ recommendations, and more. Finally, we stopped. We did not even talk about it for months. We were tired! (Click 'Read More' to continue...)
"Oh, just keep praying, daughter..."
"OH, the Lord is going do it any day now..."
"OH, have you tried fasting?"
"OH, try reciting this prayer..."
"OH, you know Abraham and Sarah's story, don't you?!?!"
I can go on, but I am sure y'all feel me by now. I am not mocking these phrases nor am I saying they cannot be encouraging. I am just sharing because I know how many of us feel most days when it comes to trying to conceive. Not only did we endure stillbirth with our first child, but we also struggled with fertility issues trying to conceive. I will not lie it is a true journey of walking by faith and not by sight. (Click 'Read More' to continue...)
I desire to help encourage and support women during their time of trying to conceive and if they experience the tragedy of stillbirth. When I experienced stillbirth, the best advice I received: Be Human. I hope to help Christian women recognize the importance of being human in order to process our emotions. When we admit we are weak, God is able to be faithful and be God. If we be human, then God can be God.