I am not sure why it is uncomfortable?
It was comfortable for me as I carried my daughter for 38.5 weeks. Feeling every kick and punch. Watching her smile on the 3D ultrasound. Despite she only lived for 38.5 weeks, she still lived a fulfilling life. (Click 'Read More' to continue...)
I have seen people approach me with such an unease that I honestly wish they would not approach. Let me give you a helpful tip: the most disrespectful thing you can do to a mother of an angel is make their angel nonexistent. Please do not dismiss my daughter! That "momma bear" emotion rises in me when people try to dismiss my daughter! Yes, we are blessed with a son who is now 15 months old, but I tell him every single night his sister in heaven loves him!
The other disrespectful thing you can do to a mother of an angel is make her feel as though she needs to stop grieving. First, if you are not a true medical professional or been through a tragic loss, then do not offer your opinion (the truth is the healthy way to grieve happens in stages but never ends). If you do not understand, seek God to understand. In fact, study the story of Jesus Christ and strive to walk a few pages through Mary's shoes! Then if you wish to understand more with the right motives, talk to a mother of an angel. Ask questions that are focused on you understanding versus you assuming your opinion is right.
Just because a child was stillborn does not mean they were not born. I honestly feel so sorry for those women who experienced stillbirth but could not hold the child. The doctors and nurses just took the baby away. I have heard this more from older women but some of these women are not that old!
As a mother of an angel, I celebrate Charlotte's birthday every year by decorating her grave site (she will be 8 years old this year). I think about her more than I thought I would. The great news is I do more smiling than crying as I think about her. Then I still have moments where I cry. And I have come to learn that is ok.
To my other mothers with angels: no matter when it happened, it is ok to celebrate their life! Celebrate their birthday, hang a Christmas stocking over the fireplace for them, place an Easter bunny in the special spot in the house, or do anything to help you celebrate them. Your stillborn angel was still born! No matter if it just happened last week or over 30 years ago, you are in your "motherhood rights" (I know that is not a thing...but it sounds good...Lol) to celebrate your child!
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I desire to help encourage and support women during their time of trying to conceive and if they experience the tragedy of stillbirth. When I experienced stillbirth, the best advice I received: Be Human. I hope to help Christian women recognize the importance of being human in order to process our emotions. When we admit we are weak, God is able to be faithful and be God. If we be human, then God can be God.